The Blessing That You Did Not Receive

Posted by: J. Kyle Daniel, M.A


My lovely wife asked if I would write on her new blog as a guest writer for today because of this week's topic: Wednesday Word; a motivating word from God.

I want to ask you, what would you do if one morning you woke up and realized that everything that you have been longing for was not more money, a better job or a new and improved spouse; but the one thing that you were longing for was the admiration, affirmation and blessing from your dad or possibly a Godly role model in your life.


 Many people live their entire lives without receiving a blessing from their earthly fathers. However, do not get mad or discouraged at your own dad, because more than likely he also did not receive the blessing from his own father. A spoken blessing speaks to the heart of a child, even if that person is no longer a child. The affirmation of a blessing to a person says that you have what it takes and that I am proud of WHO YOU ARE and the accomplishments that you have attained.


 I am reading the book "The Blessing," by John Trenton and Dr. Gary Smalley. It has truly helped me realize the blessing that my father and mother gave to me; it was at a high school graduation event a few years back. A spoken blessing can be anything that states how proud of you they are and the many great things that you are going to do in your life. Furthermore, when a child has not received these words they often times seek other means to receive admiration, whether it is through one of their children, a co-worker, a spouse, a gang, a coach or even through a one-night-stand.


 Everyone needs to know that they are important, significant, loved, respected and admired, regardless if they are a child OR if they are a grown man, because it means the difference between low self-esteem and high self-esteem. However, the reason many people live without this blessing is because their parents do not know that it is something that is highly important. 


I would strongly encourage you to go and ask your fathers to pass down a spoken blessing of encouragement and affirmation to you. It could change the way that you look at yourself every morning. So instead of longing for something that you believe you need, you will have something that no one can ever pay enough for or attain on their own. Be blessed!

J. Kyle Daniel has a B.S. in Family Studie from the University of North Texas and
a M.A in Counseling from Dallas Baptist University.
He is an author & Freedom Team volunteer  at Gateway Church in SouthLake, TX.
He is newly married and enjoys working out, College Football, spending time with his wife
and family, and hopes to complete his doctorate in the near future.

Questions and/or Comments: jeffrykyle@hotmail.com